Persuasion today means making someone believe something. Originally, persuasion meant making someone believe something through reasoning.
The absence of reasoning in contemporary persuasion may account for why so many people can’t agree on facts, let alone points of view. If you persuade based on half-truths, misleading facts or lies, you are dealing in the art of faulty reasoning and propaganda. Reasoning based on facts is what distinguishes demagogues from persuasive speakers.
Executive coach Greg Salciiccioli published a blog about “The Art of Persuasion” in which he optimistically says, “Persuasion can be a constructive way of finding shared solutions to a common problem.” He adds, “Persuasion, when used honestly, can be used to work toward a joint goal.”
Even though the national dialogue seems hopelessly stuck in a ditch, Salciccioli’s perspective on persuasion can be useful in engaging and possibly even convincing skeptical audiences.
“Persuasion requires a handful of useful skills, including active listening, emotional empathy and generosity.” Salciccioli wrote. “Without these things, people will take our actions and suggestions as that of a manipulator, and rightfully so. We must show that our end goal is to serve the needs of others, even in the case where we hold an opposing viewpoint.”
A hallmark of persuasion, according to Salciccioli, is providing credible proof or a reasonable explanation of your point of view. But persuasive people, he says, also need to be willing to make emotional connections with those they seek to persuade and to practice what they preach. If you can’t relate and be an example of your perspective, you have little chance to be persuasive.
In effect, Salciccioli has amended the definition of persuasion with the addition of the concept of integrity. You may seem to persuade without reason and authenticity, but you won’t be a persuasive person. That requires more than just a blather of words and boasts.
“Be an example, especially in the things you stand up for and publicly teach or claim,” Salciccioli explains. “It can be a hard thing to do as leaders, and while we’re all imperfect, this is probably the most important part of persuasion to get right. Strong positions we hold are easily undermined by hypocrisy. Put the time into practicing what you hope for others to achieve. It will give you a new sense of empathy and understanding that you cannot fabricate if you’re giving people the ‘real deal.”
Gary Conkling is president and co-founder of CFM Strategic Communications, and he leads the firm's PR practice, specializing in crisis communications. He is a former journalist, who later worked on Capitol Hill and represented a major Oregon company. But most importantly, he’s a die-hard Ducks fan. You can reach Gary at firstname.lastname@example.org and you can follow him on Twitter at @GaryConkling.